As healthcare professionals, you play a pivotal role in the lives of patients facing serious medical events. But have you ever considered the impact of these events on the close friends and family surrounding them? 💔
Co-survivors, as we call them, often bear an immense emotional burden while supporting their loved ones through difficult times. Understanding co-survivors’ needs is crucial for offering compassionate care and mitigating lasting trauma.
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We know your focus is on the patient, and here we are, asking you to do more. But by acknowledging and addressing co-survivors’ needs, you can reconnect with the essence of compassionate care. Care that can actually reduce burnout and enhance the functionality of the entire care team.1,2 🏆
Moreover, supporting co-survivors can decrease anxiety, mitigate PTSD-like symptoms, foster a sense of support, and help them better process their experiences, ultimately leading to reduced trauma.
We’ve compiled some quick and easy tips to help support co-survivors. Best of all, each of these tips takes less than a minute. So pick one – or more if you want bonus points – and run with it! 🙌
1. Make eye contact and establish a human connection.
When you engage with co-survivors, look into their eyes, signaling that you see them as individuals deserving of attention and connection. A simple act of eye contact can offer comfort and reassurance. 👀
Before you are a clinician, you are a human.
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2. Provide clear and concise written information.
Medical information can be overwhelming. While in the middle of a traumatic event, people’s ability to take in and remember information decreases, so keep it simple and write it down. Co-survivors’ cognitive load during this stressful time makes it hard to comprehend the situation fully and remember important details. Use plain language and break down complex explanations to ensure co-survivors understand what’s happening. Remember, knowledge empowers. 📄
3. Speak plainly and avoid euphemisms.
While it may seem easier to sugar-coat difficult news, it’s essential to speak plainly. Using euphemisms can create confusion and cause additional distress. Be honest and communicate with empathy and clarity. 🗣️
4. Simply ask how they are doing.
Remember to ask how co-survivors are coping. Showing genuine concern for their emotional and physical well-being can provide a much-needed moment where they feel seen, fostering trust. 🫶
5. Explain, name, and validate their emotions and experiences.
Traumatic events may have preceded your interaction with the co-survivor. By naming them as such, you acknowledge that the experience is happening to them, too. Understand that co-survivors may experience various emotions, including fear, grief, anger, and guilt. Validate their feelings by acknowledging them and offering a safe space for expression. ❤️🩹
Flanary, Kristin. “Words to Leave By: Bridges Out of the Quiet Place.” Journal of Cardiac Failure 28.11 (2022): 1646-1648.
6. Encourage and help facilitate self-care.
Remind co-survivors to prioritize some self-care throughout the process. Encouraging them to rest, eat well, exercise, and engage in enjoyable activities can help them maintain their overall well-being. But remember that they may have a diminished capacity to care for themselves amidst everything they are dealing with, so you may need to go a step further and connect them with resources (see number 8). 💖
7. Connect them with support resources.
Share information about local support groups, counseling services, and online communities where co-survivors can connect with others who have faced similar journeys. Connecting with others can be profoundly healing.🤝
8. Be a compassionate listener.
Sometimes, all co-survivors need is someone to listen without judgment. Practice active listening, engage with empathy, and hold space for their stories and concerns.👂
9. Remember them at follow-up appointments.
The journey doesn’t end after major medical events. When you check in with co-survivors at follow-up appointments to see how they are faring, this simple gesture shows that you genuinely care about their well-being. 💙
10. Practice self-reflective learning.
You already are by being here! You get an A+ for seeking out resources, research, and personal narratives that provide insight into the unique perspective of co-survivors. 💫
Remember, small actions can make a significant difference for co-survivors. Integrating these tips into your practice can help co-survivors feel seen, heard, and supported during their loved one’s medical event.
RESOURCES
Heartsight: Understanding Cardiac Arrest: Here, you’ll find trusted resources carefully curated from clinical research and shared experiences of individuals who have experienced a Sudden Cardiac Arrest. There are resources for survivors, co-survivors, witnesses, bereaved, and healthcare professionals.
Susan G. Komen Co-survivor Resources: Here, you’ll find support and resources for co-survivors of breast cancer, which apply to being a co-survivor of any life-altering cancer diagnosis. The site offers information on co-survivors’ roles, varied ways of providing practical and emotional support, and co-survivor support networks.
1Trzeciak, Stephen, Anthony Mazzarelli, and Cory Booker. Compassionomics: The revolutionary scientific evidence that caring makes a difference. Pensacola, FL: Studer Group, 2019.
2Ely, Wes. Every deep-drawn breath: A critical care doctor on healing, recovery, and transforming medicine in the ICU. Simon and Schuster, 2022.
